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I’m Tracy Au and I have graduated from the Professional Writing program from university. I am an aspiring screenwriter, so this blog is used to promote my writing and attract people who will hire me to write for your TV show or movie. I write a lot about writing, TV, movies, jokes, and my daily life and opinions. I have another blog promoting my TV project at

Thursday, June 16, 2016

"Five signs your boss hates you"/ "Remember, this is not forever"

Feb. 15, 2016 "Five signs your boss hates you": I cut out this article by Joanne Richard in 24 News on Jan. 7, 2013.  Here are the signs and how to deal with it:  

If you think your boss hates you, you're probably right.

No face time and the cold shoulder are strong indicators of head honcho hatred.

Yes, daily inaccessibility, indifference and insults may be tough blows to the old ego, but it's time to face the fact that things are far from hunky dory.

According to executive coach and author Dan Silvert, numerous studies have shown that the No. 1 reason employees leave organizations is their manager.

Your relationship with your boss can be as impactful, in many ways, as the significant other in your personal life, says Silvert, of

"A great relationship with your manager can provide professional validation and career growth opportunities that significantly contribute to your quality of life.

"A toxic relationship with your boss can diminish your confidence and leave you stressed out and exhausted, which then has a ripple effect both at work and at home," adds Silvert, co-author of Taking Flight: Master the DISC Styles to Transform Your Career, Your Relationships...Your Life (FT Press).

So he loves you, he loves you not? Red flags may be waving and you've failed to notice.

Signs your boss hates you:

1. Your boss tells you, point blank, that he/she doesn't want to see you very often.

2. Your boss regularly excludes you from meetings that clearly require your presence and then conceals decisions that took place.

3. Your boss refuses your multiple requests to sit down and "work things out."

4. Your boss speaks to you with contempt, both in private and in front of other employees.

5. Your boss fosters an alliance against you by spreading rumours about the quality of your work or your attitude with others who have influence in the organization.

- Courtesy Dan Silvert

And that's not all! Body cues speak volumes, according to Patti Wood, body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.

Possible cues of dislike:

1. No mirroring of voice and body language. "When we like someone, we match and mirror there voice, tone, tempo and speaking rate "¦" and body movements too, says Wood, of

2. Neutral facial expression: No empathy or interest expressed. "We often express interest through raised eye brows and smiles."

3. Eye rolling: A sign of contempt and disrespect for others.

4. Wrinkling of the nose: Indicates that something doesn't smell right and can be an indication of disrespect.

5. Puts up barriers, for example, touches cellphone or sips out of coffee cup. "It says symbolically this object is more important than you are, it is what I want to touch and interact with," says Wood.

Gender-specific cues:

Male boss: He stands facing you when giving you directions and sharing information: Standing side to side rather than face to face signifies that a man trusts you and is comfortable with you.

Female boss: She doesn't face towards you when you are speaking. "Women face you to show they respect you and want to hear you. If she doesn't like you, she may aim her body away from you, close her hands and arms over her heart."

There is something not on the website, but in the newspaper:

Be a fountain, not a drain!

If others are gossiping, don't gossip.  If co-workers complain about the jobs, tell them something you like about it.

If you manager disrespects you, respond with professionalism.

Don't wait to be promoted, exhibit leadership skills now.

"Test drive a new career": I cut out this article by Terry Poulton in 24 News on Nov. 28, 2011.  It's not on the internet so I have to type it up.  They interview Lisa Taylor who is president of Toronto-based career counseling company called the Challenge Factory.

"Actually experiencing first hand something they've been thinking about gives people confidence and allows them to think more clearly about the new direction."

"...Practical, hands-on approach with experiential learning."- Lawyer Denise Clarke who tried it.

Here's the website:

My opinion: I also like the Student-for- a -day programs at colleges.  You can see what you will learn at a program before you invest time and money into going to college.  I went to the Baking program at NAIT for a day.  It seemed hard and baking wasn't that interesting to me that I would go to college for it.

I may work at restaurants, but not as a baker.

"Developing a 'career portfolio": I cut out this article by Linda White in 24 News on Aug. 20, 2012.  It also talks to Lisa Taylor from Challenge Factory.

"A legacy career is a career that you choose when you're ready to take your talents and passion and apply them in a way that makes the impact you want to make in the world."

Questions for career changers:

1. Passion: What do I love?

2. Talents: What am I good at?

3. Needs: This could include financial, stability, a need to be with others, in charge or part of something bigger than yourself.

4. Impact: What mark do you want to make in the marketplace?  How do want to give back, to use your skills to help solve a problem you see in the world.  

"Remember, this is not forever": I cut out this article in the Metro on Sept. 1, 2010.  It shows a guy in his 20s holding a cardboard sign: "NEED JOB."  I can't find the article so I type it up:

"Underemployment happens to everyone, career counselors say."

Generation Y Career Blogger Lindsay Pollack:

"So you're waiting tables or temping, don't throw off your day job.  Everything is an opportunity to show what you're capable of."

"Know this is not forever."- Career advisor Dan King

Workplace advisor Jane Boucher, How to Love the Job You Hate book:

"Remember, it's just a job."

"You have a life outside of your job.  Go for walks on the beach."

"Find other things in life that have meaning and purpose."

Pollack: "And be confident.  If you're that person who keeps up the enthusiasm, even if you're the most active barista at Starbucks, somebody might notice."

Bouchard: "Men and women have to understand that their worth is not determined by their work."

"If you keep yourself open, opportunities will come when you least expect them." 

Jun. 15, 2016 Bliss Bookkeeping and Consulting: I was looking for a job and found this company.  I like the website, it's really bright and colorful.


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