But as they juggle time-consuming careers, partners and children, I’m lucky to have a once-a-month date with my loves. It leaves me wondering: How should I manage and nurture female friendship in a social hierarchy that doesn’t value them? When other people’s priorities are constantly in flux, how am I, the single friend, to navigate an ever-shifting landscape?
“As we’re nearing our mid- and late-20s, we’ve stopped thinking that long term. We’re aware, on some level, how temporal our relationships might be.”
But, Stinson says, the single person must give up control of managing these friendships, letting the friend with the spouse or children dictate the terms of the relationship.
Whether we’re touring wineries in Prince Edward County or lounging at the cottage, the caveat is “no partners or kids allowed,” though a few newborns have slipped through the cracks over the years.
Mar. 21, 2018 "Coupling up with couples": Today I found this article by Rachel Raczka in the Edmonton Journal:
Post Secret: I remember this card that has purple writing. It looks like a young woman wrote it:
"When one of my friends gets pregnant, I always feel a little sad because then they won't be fun anymore."
On the other side it says: "Congratulations." (Sigh).
My opinion: Yeah, I'm sure a lot of people experience that. Also when they're in their late teens and early 20s. When they're out having fun and partying, your friends may be having a kid and taking care of the kid and have no time for you.
It has happened to me before. In the following cases, it doesn't affect my life. They were not in my daily life. They were also not my drinking buddies. I'm sure some of you guys are laughing at this part. However, I don't party.
1. Mitch- We went to high school together. He wasn't in my daily life.
2. Michelle- she moved out of town.
3. Heather- I went to school with her. We weren't in each other's lives from 17-22yrs old. Then I found her on Facebook. I saw her once. Then she had a going-away party and she was pregnant. She was moving across the country.
Classmates: I saw this guy with this girl Melina who I went to jr. high and high school with. They were on the bus. The guy and I took the same bus because we both went to NAIT. It was a couple of months before he sat beside me on the bus. It was in 2004.
Tracy: I know your girlfriend Melina.
Guy: Oh what? Really? I'm sorry, what's your name?
Tracy: Oh no, we've never met each other before. By the way, I'm Tracy.
Guy: Oh, actually we're married.
Guy: I said we're married.
I thought he may be joking.
Or the other time I was working at the clothing store in 2005. This guy Chris came in with his 2 friends and his baby. I went to jr. high and high school with him.
Tracy: You have a kid?
Tracy: Are you married?
Chris: No, that's one thing I don't plan to do. Are you in school?
Tracy: No. Well I did a yr at NAIT. You?
Chris: I'm an electrician. One of the trades.
My friend Cham "liked" it. Of course, she did, because she likes traveling.