His mother has an opinion on everything in his life and his house's renovation, painting, landscaping etc. I never got to move in nor even get a key. We are both middle-aged, professional and educated. He is 53 and I am 48. I want to settle down and build a life with him, but he's still dragging his feet and living at home. He asked me to wait until his job was less stressful and until he can find another, better house for us to move in to. He has many excuses. He told me he loved me and would marry me soon. But 10 years passed and nothing's changed: He's still single and irresponsible. Please advise if I am right to break up with him.
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He had no job and would use her car while she was at work to go have affairs with other willfully blind women. Then he fixated on a friend of one of her friends and started sending her stalker, creepy, explicit e-mails to which she would reply F-off.
She finally printed them out and showed up at the door and tried to hand them to my room mate saying she needed to see what her so-called boyfriend was up to. She just looked at the sheaf of paper and walked away. After he totally spent all her money, he left her for another sucker. I also met a male version of this type who lost everything. Intensive counseling only works when the person admits something is wrong.
Letter writer may believe that she's doing the man some good but she's probably just enabling his behaviour. Dave is certainly right--moving on is the only sane course of action. Dave's bluntness is really kindness. There's no other sane choice.
Yes, the problems always must be someone else's huh...
I am great thanks, married 36 years to a great woman from Finland. But I am from a different generation where is was good to be married.
Two adult sons have a different world.
Very soon one will have his phd and the other msc comp sci, and like most men have zero interest in western women today...
A world in which truth about the gender BS and divorce rape is posted, and then responded to by BS like yours.
Watch what happens over the next generation, very few women will get married or have a man, and many will never have kids...
But of course that will be the man's fault and then you can ask all those people what afflicts them too, lol
There have been tv news shows & news articles about North American men who married non-western women (example: Brazilian, Japanese, etc).
The couples divorced. The foreign women didn't like living in North America so they went back to Brazil, Japan. They brought the kids with them to Brazil, Japan.
The North American fathers went to Brazil & Japan to get their kids back. The fathers couldn't speak the foreign language & the authorities in Brazil, Japan didn't care & didn't help the fathers.
There is an American actress who married a French guy. They divorced & the father brought the kids to France. American actress went to court to get her kids back from France but it didn't help. Her kids are still living in France with their father.
North Americans are better off marrying North Americans.
And think about how your kids will look like when choosing a mate.
Jan. 22, 2018 "Dating rut? Time to ditch bad habits": I found this article by Amber Madison in the Metro on Jan. 21, 2014: