Apr. 11, 2022: I found this article last week:
Apr. 7, 2014 "Whip it good: What 'whipped' really means": This is by Kelly Kawaguchi on the Los Angeles Loyolan:
If you haven’t noticed the recent increase in relationships on our beautiful campus, then wake up and smell the romance. It’s spring, and the season isn’t the only thing that’s sprung this time of year. Stomach butterflies, handholding and public displays of affection are in full force – and apparently, so is criticism of couples, and more specifically, of guys.
‘Whipped.’ The term has been casually tossed around my circle a lot lately, and I have to take issue with how it’s being used. Because when you start labeling every man in a relationship as whipped, what determines the difference between being a good boyfriend and actually, unfortunately, being whipped?
The first definition for this term on Urban Dictionary is “being completely controlled by your girlfriend or boyfriend … in most cases a guy being completely controlled by his girlfriend.”
This I agree with. I’ve seen relationships in which men and women are whipped to the point where their own feelings, wants and needs consistently come second to their partner’s.
While sacrifice can be a necessary part of a relationship at times, it should never be constantly one-sided.
“Some guys are honestly so enamored with a girl that they’ll do anything she wants to make her happy so she’ll stay with them,” said Nigel Ambayec, a senior mechanical engineering major. Ambayec, who claims to have witnessed a relationship like this offered a description. “His girlfriend was crazy,” he said. “And he did everything he could to make her happy.”
However, that lack of balance ultimately stems from both partners. The whipper, so to speak, selfishly demands a level of attentiveness while the whippee strives to meet it despite his or her own unhappiness – both are at fault in their unhealthy union for allowing such inequality, and neither can truly grow as individuals from the overall experience.
But, when you label a man whipped for simply expressing how he feels about someone he cares strongly for, you’re not just belittling his feelings, you’re also perpetuating the idea that men shouldn’t show how they feel. We’ve got enough shade on our Palm Walk that we don’t need to throw any extra around, right?
This is why casually calling men whipped isn’t okay. If a man is sincerely devoted to his romantic interest, he should be allowed to express and show that without being scrutinized for how much time and effort he puts into his relationship.
“I think being a good boyfriend means a lot of different things. Every Hermione has a Ron, you know? There are some recurring things: honesty, letting yourself and your partner grow, things like that,” said Jonathan Gomez, a senior economics major.
When asked if he was whipped, Gomez replied in a grave tone, “Definitely,” before he sarcastically added, “Not. I’d like to believe I’m in a healthy relationship.”
But when asked if he’d ever called someone whipped before, Gomez admitted that he had. When asked why, he explained, “Because he was whipped.”
Gomez’s girlfriend, junior communication studies major Micaela Asercion, added, “I think it’s a subtle jealousy thing. Some guys will say it as more of a joke, but I think they also wish they had that. I think it’s also because they see the differences in the way they act when they’re with their girlfriend.”
Of course people act differently when they’re in relationships. It makes sense to want to focus your attention on the person you’re into. But where do we draw the line between too much and too little attention?
“The fine line between being a good boyfriend and being whipped is sometimes difficult to see,” said Carlo Chuapoco, a junior psychology major. “A good boyfriend doesn’t necessarily have to be subservient as someone who is whipped usually is.
Someone who is classified as a good boyfriend attends to the needs of his significant other, while still remaining independent and true to his own identity.”
Ambayec added, “Being a good boyfriend is doing things because you want to do them. You’re doing things for your significant other without them even asking, out of the kindness of your own heart.”
“Some guys even call each other whipped to show they’re looking out for each others’ best interests if they’re noticing certain behaviors that might lead to it. I think it’s usually well-meant when it’s said,” Gomez noted.
So whether you’re a guy or a girl, or a guy looking out for another guy, putting someone you love before yourself should not be considered a failure if that’s what genuinely makes you happy. That’s not being whipped. That’s called caring about someone.
The beauty of a successful, healthy relationship is that uninhibited generosity is reciprocated.
This is the opinion of Kelly Kawaguchi, a senior English major from Irvine, Calif. Please send comments to dfeldman@theloyolan.com.
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Whip it good: What 'whipped' really means | Opinion | laloyolan.com
Oct. 9, 2022 My opinion:
Gr.9 flashback: A girl changes homerooms to be in the same class and be closer to her boyfriend:
One of my friends said that she was going to try to change homerooms and be in the same class so she could be closer to her boyfriend.
I see 2 girls exchange looks with each other and they were thinking: "That's bad."
I also thought that it was kind of bad because she is putting a lot of time and effort and making her life revolve around this guy.
She was unable to change homerooms.
2019 flashback: A guy changes schools to be with his girlfriend:
I was working at this restaurant and this guy went to one school in gr. 10 and another school in gr. 11 and 12.
Guy: I had a girlfriend at that time. She was going to change schools and she said to me "If you don't go to the same school as me, I'm going to break up with you."
He went to Eastglen school.
I thought this was really bad to change schools to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend. He is making this big of a move to be with his girlfriend.
I also thought the girlfriend seems kind of stupid and lazy. I know you have to put more time and effort to be friends with someone if they go to another school. I have done that before.
Heather went to a different jr. high school.
Angela and Michelle went to a different high school.
Someone changes schools to be with their friends: A lot of people do this.
Some of you may say: "That's bad and stupid." However, if you change schools to be with your friend(s), it doesn't seem as bad as changing schools to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Nov. 21, 2022: This is more about a woman being "whipped" by her boyfriend. This woman got an abortion to keep her boyfriend, and he still cheated on her:
This is from Jul. 2009:
music/ abortion/ job search
I felt so sorry for her. She needs counselling. At that time I was like 19. At first I was kind of confused because why would you want to keep a baby by a guy who's a total scumbag? But then I realized that she didn't agree with a decision that he made. She wanted to keep her boyfriend, and she should have really gotten rid of him, and kept the baby.
I remember telling this to my friend Leslie back in 2004. We were at Wendy's and it was the end of summer. We were going to watch the Jet Li movie Hero afterwards. I thought Leslie was going to be agreeing with me and saying that it was sad. Instead it was different.
L: Well actually it's a good thing that she did get an abortion. If she kept the kid and raised it as her own, then she wouldn't even have enough money for her own retirement.
I told this to Ray awhile back.
R: Well it seems that this woman is not ready to have a baby because she put her boyfriend ahead of the baby.
Anyway, I hope people (women) who do watch this show will realize that even if you get an abortion to keep your boyfriend, your boyfriend may still cheat on you and leave you.
That also reminds me of another ep where this woman got pregnant and her boyfriend was cheating on her.
Woman: When I got pregnant, he was trying to convince me to get an abortion even though he knows I'm totally against that. If I find out he's cheating on me, I'm going to leave him. I'm going to be a single mom.
I felt this ep had also a really "jump the shark" moment because the boyfriend stabbed the host Joey Greco. Seriously, I saw it.
Jul. 29, 2021 "Don’t Try to Change Your Partner – and Four More Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship": Today I found this article by Amy Fleming in the Guardian:
Take nothing for granted, communicate clearly – and say something nice every single day.
Be Appreciative, Daily
Sarah Calvert, a relationship therapist in London, says: “Starting from a place of appreciation is always of benefit, and can help solve more difficult conversations.
It’s easy to focus on what is lacking, so I invite people to think about what they appreciate about the other person on a daily basis. Find one thing each day and tell them.” This could be anything from something they do, or a quality that they have to the way they are looking.
“Actively seeking out things to appreciate helps them feel valued,” says Calvert, and when your partner better understands what you appreciate about them, they’ll probably start doing those things a bit more.
Don’t Try to Change Your Partner
“This is the person you have chosen, and they are who they are. You can’t change somebody else,” says Dee Holmes, a senior practice consultant for Relate. This can even come down to not sweating the small stuff.
“We all do things that irritate our partners,” says Holmes. “Does this really need addressing or should you accept that’s just what they do?”
Respect and celebrate each other’s individuality.
While couple time is important, says Holmes, “you’ve got to allow someone that space to still see their friends and do their own things.” After all, if you stopped them from pursuing their interests and doing all those things that makes them them, she warns, “they’re not going to be the person you got together with.”
Avoid Assumptions
“It can be quite easy to not say the obvious things, because you assume the other person knows,” says Holmes. It can be just as easy to erroneously assume you understand them. If your partner says they don’t want to go out tonight after all, says Holmes, you might feel cheated by their backtracking, without considering what caused their change of heart.
Perhaps something is troubling them. Try some active listening, suggests Calvert. “Make an effort to be fully present, and really learn what is going on for that person, rather than just hearing the words.”
Brush Up Your Communication Skills
This starts with being in touch with your own feelings, says Calvert. “Otherwise, you won’t be able to say what you need and what you want.
Good communication fosters emotional intimacy, which can lead to greater feelings of fulfillment, understanding, trust and safety.”
She suggests being more mindful of the language and the tone you use. “Often people say things [to their partner] that sound really harsh, not in a way in which they would address anyone else,” she says.
When responding defensively, they often don’t even say what they really mean.
She suggests asking yourself: “If you were listening to this conversation, how would it make you feel?”
Discover What Makes Your Partner Feel Loved
“Some people feel loved through their partner’s actions, anything from bringing a cup of tea for them in bed to upgrading their technology,” says Calvert.
Some need affirming words, to be told that they’re loved.
For others, physical contact is more significant: intimacy, sex, holding hands.
Maybe it’s quality time, with your full attention,
or perhaps gifts hold greater meaning for your partner.
“If they think that what really matters is holding hands in public,” says Calvert, “and you’re just saying to them, ‘I love you,’ but not giving them any physical contact, then they’re not going to feel so loved.”
Amy Fleming is a freelance writer and former Guardian staff journalist. Follow her on Twitter @amy_fleming.
Quickbooks/ How to make decisions/ Tracy giving away her magazine clippings (Work from Home Part 1)
This week doesn't have a theme. Here are the other 2 blog posts:
"Anti-drug program targets high- risk youth"/ "I posted this photo of my dying son to warn of the dangers of fentanyl"
"Surgeon preparing to transplant human head"/ "Would you sign up to catch a deadly disease and live in isolation for weeks? These friends did"
My week:
Nov. 18, 2022 "Marketplace investigates shrinkflation and reveals the sneaky ways companies cut costs, but not prices": Today I found this article by Michelle McCann, Katie Pedersen, Greg Sadler, and Travis Dhanaraj on CBC. Earlier this year I read an article on CBC about this.
My little brother P buys Chunky soup at Wal- Mart for 4 cans for $10. The cans used to be 540 ml, and now it's 515 ml.
If you read this article, they also show pictures of the packages being the same size, but there is less food in them:
"Many Canadians struggling with 'subconscious spending' habits: Survey": Today I found this article by Iva Poshnjari on BNN Bloomberg. I like this article because it's about psychology and saving money:
Many Canadians are concerned about their personal financial situation but they have not changed their subconscious spending habits, according to a survey by FP Canada.
In recent report, more than half of respondents (51 per cent) said they were worried about their finances, but many haven’t made any changes to their spending habits.
Most are spending money subconsciously by charging monthly subscriptions to credit cards (64 per cent) or using credit to make other payments (59 per cent).
Some unconscious spending habits have also increased over the past six months: One out of four Canadians (25 per cent) are more likely to buy more than they intended during retail sales
and purchase additional items online to get free shipping.
“With the rising cost of living, Canadians' dollars simply aren't going as far as they once did,” said Tashia Batstone, president and chief executive officer of FP Canada, in the press release.
“Now more than ever, it's critical for Canadians to be mindful of their spending habits.”
The rise of subconscious spending comes at a time when Canadians are fighting multi-decade-high inflation.
On Wednesday, Statistics Canada reported Canada’s annual inflation rate was 6.9 per cent in October as a modest drop in food prices helped offset a rise in gasoline and mortgage costs.
Many Canadians struggling with 'subconscious spending' habits: Survey - BNN Bloomberg
Are you tiered of slaving in the sales or restaurant industry and working ridiculous hours for peanuts? How would you like to set your own hours, work as much as you want and when you want to, and get paid top dollar for it?
We are a local non-profit charitable organization that has started up an urban farm that organically grows fresh microgreens. For this new initiative we are looking for someone with chef, restaurant, or sales experience that can help us out with our marketing directly to restaurants and their executive chefs.
Insane commissions on sales. We will initially pay 20% of gross sale as straight commission for new clients, with 10% residual commission on recurring subscription sales and increased tiered rates after your performance has been proven. There is no upper limit on compensation. Since we are a charitable organization, we can also issue a tax donation receipt based on the hours you spend helping us out. In Alberta a charitable donation receipt results in about a 50% tax refund based on that amount. So as an independent contractor there will not be any withholdings on your commission payments.
This could be either a part time or full time position depending on how seriously you would want to pursue the endeavor. Ideally you would be able to accomplish the tasks on your own time schedule, with no set hours. We would also have no issues if you were to pursue other employment concurrently, and just do this part time for us.
So if you are still reading, let me tell you a bit more about what is actually required and some info on our organization.
We need someone with this experience to help build our customer database. Someone with sales experience or who speaks the language of the food services industry, would be perfect for this. Our new microgreens program is targeting the metro Edmonton and surrounding communities.
Ideally, you would contact various restaurants and chefs in the metro Edmonton and surrounding area, and market our microgreen products to them directly. Either by contacting them in person or through any contacts you may have. You would tout the benefits of our microgreens and our program that offers product from harvest to chef within a day and free delivery with no minimum purchasing. You will also be able to offer them free commercial samples of product to try before taking any orders from them. Some benefits of our programs are that we offer, locally grown produce direct to consumer within a day from harvest. Since we are a non-profit organization we can offer our product at a lower cost than any commercial organization (we will beat or match any other competitor). We also have the ability to issue charitable donation receipts to clients purchasing subscriptions of our microgreens. All these benefits should make marketing directly to chefs and restaurants very easy for a person familiar with the industry, or has sales experience.
Initially compensation would be performance based, with increasing incentives, and no upper limit to the possible compensation. After an initial trial period and you remain interested a more formal employment situation may be considered. Since we are a non-profit organization, employee compensation can be based on profit generated, rather than have the profits going directly to corporate owners. We believe in paying top producers, the top dollars!
I would love to send you more information on our organization and specifically our new microgreens program. If you are at all interested, please forward your resume and compensation expectations.
A little bit about us:
Our organization believes in food security and inclusivity to everyone.
We are The Rock Soup Greenhouse and Food Bank, a growing non-profit organization that aims to provide a unique solution to food security. We are a federally and provincially registered non-profit with charitable status, and are looking to form partnerships with like-minded individuals and organizations.
We are determined to provide food security, as well as additional hygiene essentials, in a way that does not undermine individual and family dignity. Traditional food bank models have users go through an application process that requires answering invasive personal questions such as financial or medical questions. Instead, we have a 3000sq foot storefront that mimics a typical grocery store. We also have a 6000sq foot greenhouse dedicated to organic produce grown to supply the food bank. This infrastructure allows users of our services to acquire food through a shopping experience available to the rest of the population; additionally, it allows them the autonomy to acquire nutritional, nourishing food that is specific to their needs, not determined by an organization.
The Rock Soup Greenhouse and Food Bank feels our model has great capacity to change quality of life for many individuals. We need your help though! We cannot do this without progressive organizations or individuals like yourself. Change takes making big moves and we want you to take this big move with us. If you feel you would be an ideal partner, please get back to us.
Consulting Chef - Set your own hours - NO salary cap! | Bar, Food & Hospitality | Edmonton | Kijiji
The official website:
This is Craig Haavaldsen. He used to work with the public in his social services career and he noticed how many would go without food, often for the whole day. He also did research for a work project on the social determinants of health, and he realized that it would be impossible for the typically bi-weekly hampers of food banks to give the recommended amount of fresh food for families in need. And what's more, that access to this basic supplies in the current system means going through a timely and invasive process.
When the Covid-19 pandemic hit, he saw in fighting hunger a way to ground himself and keep busy during this time. With his friend Becky Flowers and his kids by his side, he spent the spring and summer building a test greenhouse in Edmonton. After a good start, he began looking for larger facilities in central Alberta in order to fill the food bank gap in more rural communities. A few months and a lot of cold nights spent in a tent to raise funds later, Rock Soup was opening its doors on Christmas eve, providing food for 77 families just the first night.
About us | Rock Soup Greenhouse and Food Bank
Nov. 22, 2022 "Labour groups allege workers at Canadian Tire supplier factories paid poverty wages": Today I found this article on BNN Bloomberg:
Canadian Tire Corp. has failed to ensure garment workers in its South Asian supplier factories are paid a living wage, labour groups allege in a complaint filed with a federal corporate watchdog.
The Canadian Labour Congress and the United Steelworkers Union filed the complaint with the Canadian Ombudsperson for Responsible Enterprise on Tuesday, calling on the office to investigate allegations of human rights abuses in the retailer's supply chain.
The complaint alleges that workers in Bangladeshi garment factories that supply Canadian Tire subsidiary Mark's with clothing sold under brand names like Wind River, Denver Hayes, Dakota, and Helly Hansen are paid "poverty-level wages."
While the company's suppliers may pay slightly more than the legal minimum wage in Bangladesh, garment workers still earn less than $1 an hour on average, said Kalpona Akter, executive director of the Bangladesh Center for Workers Solidarity.
Workers live in overcrowded housing and struggle to buy food despite working as much as six days a week and 12 hours a day, she said.
"Many face a constant struggle to feed themselves and their families and live one step away from abject poverty," Akter said during a news conference.
The average garment worker earns about $173 a month — an amount that would have to increase four or five times to pay workers a living wage, she said.
Marty Warren, Canadian national director of the United Steelworkers Union, said that Canadian Tire's suppliers contravene international human rights standards.
"The women and men employed in Bangladesh garment factories like those used by Mark's and Canadian Tire live in poverty," he said during a news conference.
"Canadian Tire has influence and resources to ensure that rights are respected," Warren said. "They need to be pushed to live up to their responsibilities."
Several Canadian apparel retailers including Lululemon Athletica Inc. and Loblaw Companies. Ltd's Joe Fresh clothing brand have sourced apparel from the South Asian country.
Lululemon launched an investigation in 2019 after reports surfaced of worker abuse at a factory in Bangladesh that supplied the athleisure retailer.
In 2013, a factory that collapsed in Bangladesh killing more than 200 people made Joe Fresh-brand clothes.
Loblaw said at the time that it has vendor standards, which ensure products are manufactured "in a socially responsible way."
Labour groups allege workers at Canadian Tire supplier factories paid poverty wages - BNN Bloomberg
"#MeToo movement becomes #WeToo in in victim-blaming Japan"/ "Outrage as women in Japan told not wear glasses in the workplace"
"You never look good when you are trying to make someone else look bad."- Unknown
Cham: Sometimes people need to be exposed for who they are hahah or maybe I should stop being petty
Tracy Au: There's a difference between trying to make someone look bad, and exposing them for who they are. It's like those #MeToo accusers and victims, they are plainly telling everybody about the perpetrators. They're not trying to make them look bad.
Barrick had ceded control of the mine to a subsidiary, but in 2019 regained operational control through a joint venture deal with the Tanzanian government. Although Barrick has repeatedly said it has resolved human rights issues at the mine, according to the lawsuit, human rights abuses have increased in recent years, such that during 2021 and 2022 there have been at least five killings, five incidents of torture and five other shootings.
The 56-page lawsuit asserts claims of negligence against Barrick under Ontario law and claims that Barrick breached customary international law and human rights standards, making it liable for the deaths and injuries to local residents. It is filed on behalf of alleged victims and their families, including widows and children.
New lawsuit filed against Barrick Gold about troubled Tanzania mine | Financial Post
"Richard Fierro disarmed the Club Q gunman. Now, people are supporting the Army veteran and his wife's brewery by buying merch and gift cards.":
A retired Army veteran and brewery owner helped take down the Club Q gunman. Now the internet is showing up to support him and his family.
On Saturday, Richard Fierro jumped into action to disarm a gunman who opened fire inside Club Q, a LGBTQ nightclub in Colorado Springs, Colo. Fierro was watching a drag show with his wife, daughter and friends at the club when the attack started.
Eighteen people were injured and five were killed in the Nov. 19 shooting. The victims have since been identified as Daniel Aston, Kelly Loving, Ashley Paugh, Derrick Rump and Raymond Green Vance. Vance was the longtime boyfriend of Fierro's daughter Kassy.
As Fierro's wife, Jessica, and daughter mourn and recover from their own injuries, those in awe of the army vet's bravery are going online to show his family some love.
The Fierros own Atrevida Beer Co. in Colorado City, making Jessica — who once won Viceland's homebrew competition, Beerland — both the head brewer and the first woman and Latina to own a brewery in Colorado. Atrevida, which the brewery's site explains means "bold, daring, audacious woman," is committed to inclusivity, as demonstrated by its company motto ("Diversity, it's on tap!") and donations to various charitable organizations. In 2018, the brewery released a "Big Red Soda" for charity in honor of Juneteenth. Along with craft beer, the brewery sells gift cards and merchandise like T-shirts and skull cups — all of which have been snapped up by Fierro's supporters since Saturday's tragic shooting.
"Let's show thanks to the hero who took down the Club Q gunman, Richard Fierro," read one of many tweets urging others to shop at Atrevida.
"The gay community (and all decent beings) must thank this man for his heroism," another Twitter user shared.
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