Sharing a home with someone can be great. Lasting friendships may be built, but sometimes something a little more develops.
Before you share a home with someone you have a romantic interest in, carefully evaluate the situation and consider these suggestions.
Are you physically attracted to the person? If so, it may not be a good match.
Living with someone to whom you have emotional attachment can inhibit your ability to make logical decisions.
Starting a new relationship can be stressful and awkward in itself. Combining that with establishing a new living arrangement can lead to a volatile situation.
Even if you aren’t initially attracted to someone, keep in mind that attractions can develop over time.
People are attracted to others with similar physical, behavioural and psychological characteristics.
As you spend more time with someone and get to know them better, the behavioural and psychological factors play a stronger role in forming an attraction.
To avoid confusion, do not allow yourself to spend too much alone time with your roommate.
Invite friends over, get out of the house, and try to keep your home environment neutral.
If you have roommates of opposite sex within your home, try to establish some sort of division and structure. Allocate separate bathrooms for each roommate. Divide up communal cooking nights.
Establish house rules regarding personal space and prevent awkward situations by not allowing them to happen. Make sure everyone agrees to the same rules pertaining to visitors, quiet time, and cleaning schedules.
Communication is key to ensuring your home sharing works. Be upfront and clear with everything. Guys and girls communicate differently so make no assumptions, be completely transparent.
Topics such as rent payments, financial situations, and relationships can be difficult; will you be able to discuss these with an opposite sex roommate?
The awkward moments, yes these will happen. Ask yourself how you would feel if your roommate brings their new boy/girl friend over?
How would you feel if your roommate brings over 5 of their friends for a movie night? Be real with the situation and ask yourself how you react to uncomfortable situations.''
https://www.happipad.com/blog/romantic-roommates/
Sept. 19, 2019 "Dating advice from Tinder's favorite lonely romantic": Today I found this article by Jen Kirsch in the Star Metro:
Lane Moore’s story is a sad but hopeful one. The stand up comedian, writer, director, actor, and musician shares her vulnerabilities, past hurt and struggles openly. Moore created Tinder Live!, an improv comedy show that pokes fun and finds the humour in the universally frustrating experience in online dating, and hit a chord with her audiences.
Five years later, her comedy show is still going strong. She has accumulated 52,000 plus Twitter followers, (and 12,500 on Instagram) is lead singer in the band It Was Romance, and has written a bestselling book of essays about dealing with loneliness, called “How To Be Alone, If You Want To, and Even If You Don’t.”
The Star caught up to her over the phone to chat about Tinder Live, identity and the details of her first book. Stand-up comedian Lane Moore’s book of essays “How To Be Alone, If You Want To, and Even If You Don’t,” is about about dealing with loneliness.
For those who haven’t heard of Tinder Live! what would your elevator pitch be?
It’s extremely good natured. I only swipe on guys whose profiles are ridiculous. I joke that the profiles we want are white guys with cornrows named Amen. It’s totally improvised. I play a character who is kind of nuts in a fun way, which of course, the super weird guys on Tinder love ...
Sometimes people in the audience come up. It’s wild. We chat live on stage and it goes to some really fun bizarre places. It’s also really educational for what not to do on dating apps, and makes so many people feel less alone because dating apps can feel so lonely and exhausting.
I perform it every month in New York City and tour the country with it at colleges and clubs, and it’s extremely fun to see the regional differences in each city.
In your book you share details into your lonely upbringing and feeling abandoned by your parents. How has that effected your outlook on life? Does this play into the fact that you’re single or always on the lookout for The One?
It impacted everything absolutely. I wanted to tell a story that I rarely if ever have seen told, which is about people who didn’t have perfect families growing up and the difficulties that can leave you with in terms of making friends and finding a healthy partner and feeling like you deserve love and can have it.
But it’s also about loneliness in general and how even if you had the great family as a kid, it can still be so difficult to find and maintain a sense of community and belonging in the world.
And I wanted to offer my own experience with that, so when you read the book you’re already less alone because you’re not the only one who feels all these feelings we never speak about.
What is your ideal Tinder date?
I’m a super romantic so, if we already had some kind of genuine rhythm and really good thing going over Tinder, which is the only way I’d go, I’d like a really nice dinner at a romantic place, flowers are always cute, because why not?
And then, maybe dessert somewhere else. I’m a big believer in very old-school romance.
You date both men and women. How do you identify yourself and what would you want readers to know about choosing the right partner when it comes to relationships?
I’m queer and I write about biphobia and queerness in the book, but I also talk about my exes in a way where gender is not an issue. Every heartbreak hurts exactly the same. And a great person is a great person.
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