Apr. 3 Job
fair: Yesterday I went to a job fair. I was like 20 min. early and
there was a huge line up. I was #31. There were a lot of people
applying for several positions. I waited for about an hour before I got
to talk to someone for 5 min. I learned more about the job. There
was a job fair like this a couple of months ago, but I missed it because I had
to go to work.
I learned that the training takes months. It would
also be good if you drive, because they made need you at different locations.
Apr. 14 Influence: I was reading a Job Boom article
“How to Change Minds at Work without Manipulation.”
“In his new book How to Change Minds: The Art of Influence
without Manipulation (published by Berrett-Koehler), Rob says influence without
manipulation is a process that is “repeatable, predictable, and measurable.” It
is also highly practical and can be adapted by anyone, at any time, to any
situation.
The worst opener: “I need to talk with you.” (Think about how those six words make you feel. Not great, right?)
The best openers include softer words and phrases, such as ask you, listen to you, or need your help.
Establish trust.
Create urgency.
Overcome objections.
Gain commitment.
Ask the most important question never asked: “Are you committed to making a change?”
Finally, the line between influence and manipulation often comes down to intent. So ask yourself if you believe. That is, do you truly believe that the idea or solution you seek to push someone toward is in that person’s best interest?
If your answer is yes, you have the very foundation of influencing—not manipulating.”
My opinion: It was a good article. As usual, TV influences my life and I thought: “Whatever happened to that TV show Mind Games?” It was about manipulative problem solvers. The below article talks about how it got cancelled and how Christian Slater has been on 4 TV shows in the past 6 yrs and how they got cancelled.
http://insidetv.ew.com/2014/03/27/abc-cancels-mind-games/
No consequences: If you want to get people to do what
you want to do, you have to give some sort of reward or punishment to get
results.
Remember this email about Lizzie on 16 and Pregnant? Here it is:
“2. No consequences: My main problem with her is in
the “Where are they now?” special where she did say (paraphrase): “A lot of
people think teen moms can’t succeed, but I’m going to prove them all
wrong.” I definitely remember the “prove them all wrong” part.
I think she did get pregnant on purpose so she could have a
family, and also it seemed like she knew that there were little to no
consequences. She knew she wasn’t going to get kicked out of her house,
she was going to get married, she was still going to graduate out of high
school, and still going to be able to go to college, and have her family
financially and emotionally support her. What she didn’t predict was that
her boyfriend cheated on her.”
Real- life examples:
There are people out there who can eat a lot of fast food,
and they don’t gain weight. No
consequence. Unless, you count spending
$6 on a meal expensive.
There are people who don’t work hard or study in school, and
they get good grades. No consequence,
because they’re smart or good in this subject.
Those above examples have no effect on anyone else except
that one person.
Job: I mentioned this before in the Soup place, there
was Co-worker #1 who kept missing work on Mon. and Tues., and she never
calls. The managers have talked to her
before, but she keeps doing it. No
consequence. It has an effect on all of
us because we all have to work a bit harder when she’s not around.
She never got fired, because when she was here, she’s a good
worker and the bosses are nice.
School: In school, if you talk back to the teacher,
the consequence is you go to the office or get detention.
Apr. 17: I want to add to that. Remember I wrote about my math teacher Mr.
Stabile yelling at this girl for sleeping in class? He was yelling at her to stay awake and pay
attention in an angry and mean tone of voice.
This girl Lindsay then said this: “Yeah, well you’re a jerk.”
The entire class says “Ohhhhhh.”
Mr. S and Lindsay then talked a bit, where she is basically
telling him that he was being a jerk.
She didn’t get sent to the office.
There wasn’t really a consequence for her.
Mr. S was being a jerk, and Lindsay told him he was so there
was his consequence.
Apr. 20 Stonewall: I was thinking about this term and
I looked it up:
Informal
a. To engage in delaying tactics; stall: "stonewalling for time in order to close the missile
gap" (James Reston).
b. To refuse to answer or cooperate.
I was also thinking about how there are two people who want
two different things and then it stops right in the middle. There is no big win or lose. Here are some examples:
Friends: Remember that email where I said I invited
my friend Angela to Capital Ex in 2006?
She said I had to pick her up from work, but I didn’t know how to use
Google Maps and the ETS to figure out a way to get to her work. Now in hindsight, I could ask if we could
meet in downtown and then take the LRT to go
to Capital Ex.
Or did I and she couldn’t?
I can’t quite remember. So we
didn’t go. There’s no big win or loss
for me, because I still went there on my own.
There’s no big or win or loss for her, because she didn’t go, but she
did save money by not going. It just is.
Same goes with asking my friends to go to movies with
me. If they’re not interested in seeing
the movie, then I’ll go by myself.
Call Centre #3: The same goes with the time I worked
at Call Centre #3 in 2009. For the first
two weeks I got full-time hours. Then
the project ended and I was working part-time hours. Then I got my shifts cancelled due to lack of
work.
I talked to my boss and said that if he didn’t give me more
shifts by the end of Jan., I was going to start looking for another job and
possibly quit. He told me he expected
and hoped work was going to come in Jan.
Jan. came and I didn’t get any shifts after. I called every Mon. morning to get my
schedule, but there wasn’t any work.
I never quit. There
was no major win or lose for me, I did start looking for another job and kept
working at the Soup place. There was no
major win or lose for my boss, because there really isn’t any work.
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