May 14, 2015 "The bigger the target, the bigger your success": I cut out this article by Harvey Schachter in the Globe and Mail on Sept. 5, 2011. This is kind of inspirational:
To be successful in your career, motivational speaker and trainer Grant Cardone says you need to take the right amount of action. There are four degrees of action you can take, and most people fail, he argues, because they operate at the wrong level. He outlines the possibilities in his book, The 10X Rule:
First degree of action: Do nothing
Some people stop learning, achieving, or seeking control over important areas of their life. They are bored, lethargic or lack purpose. They still have to expend time and energy, but they do so justifying their situation.
Second degree: Retreat
Retreaters probably fear success. So they take action in reverse, to avoid the negative experiences they fear will occur if they plunge ahead.
"Retreaters claim to be doing so ... to avoid more rejection and/or failures; it is almost never the actual rejection or failure that has impacted them. More often than not, it's their impression and evaluation of what failing and rejection mean that is causing them to retreat," Mr. Cardone writes.
As with doing nothing, this is not effortless. It requires effort and hard work. He says justifiers will "spend as much energy justifying their decision to retreat as the most successful person will in creating success."
Beware, however: Retreating is not something that only others do and you always avoid. He suggests there are probably realms in your life in which you retreat because you have decided you can no longer advance and improve.
Third degree: Take normal levels of action
This is our normal behaviour - and Mr. Cardone considers it the most dangerous approach, because it is considered acceptable. But it will make you average and blend in, rather than help you to excel and stand out.
Is average good enough for you?
"Companies call me constantly to help the lower performers in their organization, yet they are overlooking the average and even top performers who are still only taking average actions," he declares.
Fourth degree: Massive action
When we were kids, it was natural to be in constant, massive action. "Until adults started telling me otherwise, I didn't know anything other than massive action," Mr. Cardone notes.
Returning to that zestful mentality means committing to what he calls the "10X rule" - setting targets that are 10 times what you think you want and then doing 10 times what you think it will take to accomplish those targets. You don't do what others do. You do what they won't do, even the unreasonable, to achieve greater success.
Such an approach will create problems, but with those problems come opportunities.
"No one is going to come to your house and make your dreams come true. No one is going to march into your company and make your products known to the world. In order to stand out from the crowd - and for customers to even consider your products, services, and organization - you must take massive action," he insists.
"Assessing others: Getting beyond your gut feeling": I cut out this article by Susan Pinker in the Globe and Mail on Sept. 5, 2011. This article is about psychology and personality:
We spend a large part of our working lives sizing up other people. Is my colleague trustworthy? Is my supervisor really knowledgeable? Is the candidate I’m favouring a good fit for the job, or does she just talk a good game?
Leaning on intuition when pondering such questions makes snap decisions seem obvious, even if they may not be the right ones, according to Samuel Barondes, a psychiatrist at the University of California, San Francisco, and author of a new book, Making Sense of People: Decoding the Mysteries of Personality.
“We need our intuitions because we live in a world of surprises. But intuitions are just the raw data. They’re highly imperfect and vary considerably from person to person. So you need to build on them,” Dr. Barondes said. First impressions – made within a few seconds of an encounter – can be as flawed as they are persuasive, he said. “All of us assume that others are like us, and we’re so attracted to certain traits that we sweep things under the rug.”
To get the long view in a short time, what’s needed is a system that fills in the blanks. Using findings from neuroscience and psychology – along with celebrity profiles to spice up the mix – Dr. Barondes’s book offers just that: a way to assess people who can be as difficult to peg as university dropout Steve Jobs, or social charmer Bernie Madoff. “We want to form that instant impression instead of stepping back, even for a short period, to rethink the parts of the picture we may not be paying attention to,” Dr. Barondes said.
One common misstep for a hiring manager, for example, is to follow your gut in an interview and end up being blinded by a polished appearance and a shiny résumé. The requirements of the position should be your primary focus, Dr. Barondes said, not the candidate’s charisma.
To help you think more systematically about people, he offers a taxonomy that includes the well-known “big five” personality traits – extroversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and openness – along with a list of 10 troublesome behaviour patterns that allow you to identify the danger areas for each one.
For example, in an interview you might be swayed by an applicant who is scores highly on extroversion and agreeableness. But do you really want a sparkly, life-of-the-party type as a senior administrator? The downside of high extroversion is emotional instability, notes Dr. Barondes, who identifies this behaviour pattern as “histrionic” – perhaps fine for a performer, such as Marilyn Monroe, but risky for other positions.
To wit, Dr. Barondes compares the extroverted and gregarious former U.S. president Bill Clinton with calm, cool Barack Obama. “Why are there so many histrionics in the world? They’re attractive! They’re sexy! They’re theatrical and up there on stage. People who are more conscientious, thoughtful and plodding are attracted to that profile,” he explained.
His distillation of the “top 10” troublesome patterns crystallizes what can go wrong in work relationships. A manager might be brilliant and have a sterling résumé, but if he always has to be right and pedantically lectures anyone within earshot of his rightness, he’ll earn the resentment rather than the respect of staff and colleagues.
When it comes to top dogs, “the big troublesome patterns are narcissism or its cousin, sociopathy,” Dr. Barondes said. “These people have little empathy. They believe that they are special, that they are entitled – that they are unconstrained, superior people. If they’re mainly interested in looking like big shots, that’s narcissism. If they think they’re entitled to take what ever they want from you – and less interested in self-aggrandizement – those are the sociopaths,” who are primarily male, and make up 4 per cent of the population, he said.
It’s likely that the talented but opportunistic O.J. Simpson, or convicted fraud artist Mr. Madoff, could never have travelled as far on charm, smarts and chutzpah had anyone systematically assessed their traits, along with their troublesome patterns, their moral choices, and their own versions of their life stories – which together form the multivalent approach outlined in this book. “Are they just interested in getting ahead, or are they people who have a vision?” Dr. Barondes asks. Assessing someone’s true nature, then, is more about “think” than it is about “blink.”
Apr. 8, 2016: This is what I should I do from now on. I should send one email a week where I talk about how my week went. The week from Apr.3-Apr.8 was where I worked at my 2nd restaurant job the most.
Second Chance: The highlights were it took me about a week to watch the whole first season (11 episodes). I watched the pilot when it came out in Jan. 2016 and I liked it. I decided to record all of so I can watch it in a week. I thought it was an average show.
If it gets a second season, I would watch it. If it doesn't, that's fine too. The ending was solid, and it did have this kind of opening of if there is a second season, it would take a dangerous turn.
"A billionaire and a bioengineer bring a dead police officer back to life."
Second Chance (TV Series 2016– )
Created by Rand Ravich. With Robert Kazinsky, Dilshad Vadsaria, Adhir Kalyan, Ciara Bravo. A billionaire and a bioengineer bring a dead police officer back to life.
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Kyle Mac: He is an Edmonton actor who plays the bad boy Ronnie on the TV show Between. I wrote about him before:
This week, he and I have been tweeting to each other back and forth a bit.
I was tweeting to him about his demo reel:
His Twitter account:
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Apr. 9, 2016 The Office joke: On Sun. I watched The Walking Dead and The Simpsons. Mon.-Wed, I watched Second Chance eps, and a Castle and a Blindspot ep. By Thurs. I was bored of watching TV and decided to reread my teen magazines before I get ready to donate them.
It reminded me of this joke on the TV show The Office. Kelly (Mindy Kaling) is celebrating her birthday at work. She has a choice of watching an hr of TV at work or getting a hr nap.
Kelly: Well I have been watching TV all week so I'll choose the nap.
They put the pillow and blanket under a table and they turn off the lights. She gets underneath the table.
Kelly: I'm so excited, I don't know if I'm going to get any sleep.
Apr. 13, 2016 Containment TV show: I heard about this show last year because I was looking up Chris Wood who plays the bad guy Kai on The Vampire Diaries. He's good looking in the hot and handsome way.
"The series follows an epidemic that breaks out in Atlanta, leaving the large city quarantined and those stuck on the inside fighting for their lives."
I have the CW so I'm going to watch it on Tues. Apr. 19. Then yesterday I saw a promo for it on Global that will air on Mon. Apr. 25 with the 2 hr premiere. I have a good feeling I will be watching this show and record every episode. It looks like Wood plays a cop on this show.
I now followed him on Twitter and tweeted to him:
Bloopers: Here is The Vampire Diaries bloopers. In the 1min 30 sec part Kai (Chris Wood) has his eyes closed and is chanting a spell. Someone off screen sneeze.
Wood: Bless you.
The crew off screen laugh.
Wood opens his eyes and laughs too.
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Lookalikes: When I first saw Chris Wood, I wasn't really attracted to him. It's not until I watched more and more of him on The Vampire Diaries, I fell in love with him.
Chris Wood:
He kind of looks like the actor Jason Dohring (Logan on Veronica Mars):
On The Vampire Diaries, Damon did say that Kai looks like "a young version of Ryan Reynolds":
Ryan Reynolds
Ryan Reynolds, Actor: Deadpool. Ryan Rodney Reynolds was born on October 23, 1976 in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, the youngest of four children. His fat...
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I'm going to add this 16 sec. video of Wood training with his shirt off:
Apr. 14, 2016: Today I checked Twitter, and Chris Wood's character Jake Riley is now following me on it.
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